“Dave has an uncanny ability to cut through the BS and get to the heart of the matter like a hot knife through butter.”
Personal Coaching
Blind spots are called blind spots for a reason.
You “know” yourself and your patterns. You may have read the books, listened to the podcasts, done some personal growth work, and now you can even put half your life into AI!
Knowing more isn’t what changes your life. What changes your life is seeing the blind spots and hidden patterns shaping your choices, relationships and reactions.
I help you see what’s been running in the background.
And because those patterns don’t only live in your head, they show up in real time in your body, your reactions, and the moment you’re about to make the same old choice again.
Meet the moment differently.
Ready to start?
Book a Mapping SessionWhen it works until it doesn’t
A lot of the patterns people want to get rid of started as qualities that helped them. Being driven, independent, keeping the peace, having high standards.
Then the thing that got you this far starts costing you.
- The drive becomes exhaustion
- Independence makes connection harder
- Keeping the peace leaves your own needs behind
- Control makes it harder to let go
- Empathy can become losing yourself in everyone else
The gift starts running you.
How I Work
Uncovering the hidden patterns starts before our first conversation.
Your intake form allows me to see what’s happening under the surface so I can shape your coaching plan.
See where what you’re doing is getting you the opposite of what you want. 🤦🏻♂️
You deeply want connection, but keep pushing the person away.
The way you’re trying to handle things with your child may be unintentionally feeding the pattern.
You want something so badly that the way you’re chasing it starts pushing it further away.
We work below the story
What we think is our problem is rarely the root issue.
Talking helps, but I’m not only listening to the explanation.
A lot of what shapes us sits outside conscious awareness. That’s why blind spots are so hard to see from the inside.
I’m paying attention to when your voice changes, you go quiet, your body tightens, or something suddenly carries more charge than you realize.
Those moments often tell us more than the story does.
When the unseen becomes seen, the pattern loses its grip and you’re free to choose what’s next.
The point is not to understand yourself perfectly and keep doing the same thing!
This is where we work with the pattern as it happens.
Maybe you notice yourself shutting down, over-explaining, abandoning what you want, reaching for control, or getting pulled into the same reaction before you even realize it.
We slow that moment down enough for you to meet it differently.
That might mean saying what’s hard to say, expressing what you need, finally setting the boundary, or choosing something other than the old move.
We make it real in your life
Insight matters, but only if your life changes with it.
The real test is what happens after the session, when you’re back in the relationship, the boardroom, the decision, or the same old situation that usually gets you.
You notice sooner, recover faster, say the thing you usually swallow, hold the boundary you normally drop, or make a choice that is fully yours.
Because life does not politely wait for your next appointment, some of the most useful coaching happens between sessions. This is why I offer in-between session support in my personal coaching.
Coaching and Therapy
Therapy and coaching can both help people understand themselves and change how they live.
My coaching is focused on the patterns showing up in your life now, how they are shaping your choices and relationships, and what happens when we work with them in real time.
We identify the hidden patterns underneath the surface problem and work with them as they show up, so you can respond differently when the same moment comes around again.
Unlike most therapy, I don’t work by the hour.
This work only matters if your life starts changing outside the session.
“I’ve worked with therapists, coaches, and mentors over the years, but Dave’s approach was the most hands-on, effective, and transformative I’ve experienced.”
Personal coaching is offered in one-month renewable packages of four sessions, with access to me between sessions.
Start with a Mapping Session
This isn’t a preliminary chat about whether coaching might be useful. We start the work right away, looking at what’s really going on, what you may not be seeing, and where it’s showing up in your life.
Personal coaching: live or Zoom. Zoom worldwide. In-person depending on Dave’s location/travel. Sessions are 60 minutes, usually weekly but flexible. Mapping Session is almost always Zoom.